Monthly Archives: August 2012

“Help me understand… vs. Why”

So often they way something is said makes a difference in how a child or teen responds.  I recommend that a parent not ask “why” something happened when it doesn’t make any difference.  After all, what is the point of … Continue reading

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Beyond the Star Chart-Making Real Behavior Changes

Parents often tell me they have tried star charts and reward methods, but “they don’t work.”  As they describe in more detail what they have tried we come to realize that the method was missing some key elements. Next time … Continue reading

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Sufficient Sleep Improves Behavior

The National Sleep Foundation recommends 10-11 hours of sleep for children 5-12.  Teenagers need between 9 and 10 hours, but often don’t get even 8 hours.   Using computers during the hour before lights out causes interference with the brain … Continue reading

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Don’t Just Say, “I’m sorry”

When a child has made a social mistake, or hurt someone’s feelings we often automatically tell them to “Say, you’re sorry.”  Sometimes the child will say the words, but not connect them with any real feeling of regret for the … Continue reading

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