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Melody Matthews Lowman, M.A. has a background in both psychology and education. Her biopsychosocial approach allows her to be a resource for behavioral and educational problem solving for children, teens and adults.

Anticipate, to prevent problem behaviors

When a child misbehaves most parents reprimand the child.  Hopefully parents also explain to their child what behavior is expected.  But what happens if, after several incidents, reprimands and explanations, your child is still misbehaving in the same way?  I … Continue reading

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“Help me understand… vs. Why”

So often they way something is said makes a difference in how a child or teen responds.  I recommend that a parent not ask “why” something happened when it doesn’t make any difference.  After all, what is the point of … Continue reading

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Beyond the Star Chart-Making Real Behavior Changes

Parents often tell me they have tried star charts and reward methods, but “they don’t work.”  As they describe in more detail what they have tried we come to realize that the method was missing some key elements. Next time … Continue reading

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Sufficient Sleep Improves Behavior

The National Sleep Foundation recommends 10-11 hours of sleep for children 5-12.  Teenagers need between 9 and 10 hours, but often don’t get even 8 hours.   Using computers during the hour before lights out causes interference with the brain … Continue reading

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Don’t Just Say, “I’m sorry”

When a child has made a social mistake, or hurt someone’s feelings we often automatically tell them to “Say, you’re sorry.”  Sometimes the child will say the words, but not connect them with any real feeling of regret for the … Continue reading

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Loving Discipline for Babies and Toddlers

Scolding and timeouts don’t work for most babies and toddlers under 36 months. So what can you do? Distract them with a song, story or more interesting object or activity. Redirect their attention by bringing out a new or favorite … Continue reading

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Verbal abuse

The word “abuse” comes from the root words for “misuse.”  Many parents ask me what exactly is verbal abuse.  Parents don’t have to be quiet and “nicey-nicey” all the time.  Healthy family members can get angry and express anger at … Continue reading

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